Individual Counseling

I’ll describe my beliefs about individual counseling in South Jersey with a question-answer format.

Question: What is the fundamental building block of successful counseling?

Answer: A counseling relationship which evolves from an atmosphere of trust, empathy and safety. After more than 20 years of delivering individual counseling in South Jersey, I’ve become proficient in building working relationships. Sometimes it happens quickly and sometimes it takes a while. And sometimes, due to a myriad of factors, it simply doesn’t occur. When this becomes obvious, I offer referrals to other providers.

Q: Can you tell if clients are sufficiently motivated for counseling?

A: Well, first and foremost, they have to keep their appointments. Nothing can happen without a commitment to show up.

Q: What kind of advice do you offer?

A: No advice. I believe strongly in clients’ inner wisdom: They may need some professional guidance, but they are equipped to meet their life challenges.

Q: How would you define counseling?

A: It’s a process whereby clients learn how to improve their coping strategies. The basic goal is a happier, more productive life.

Q: How can you tell if the process is working?

A: This may surprise you. As mentioned, I’ve done my fair share of individual counseling in South Jersey. But I’m not perfect: I have made mistakes, most often in the timing of an intervention. I can tell that the process is working when clients are quick to forgive me and move on with their work.

Q: When do you think it’s time to end counseling?

A: I don’t think in terms of endings. But the time may come to suspend sessions when goals have been met and it seems like there’s no more work to be done. I invite clients to return for tune-up sessions as needed.